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January 17, 2019 by

A Challenge to White Jews on MLK Day

Recently, a fellow Jew of Color (JOC) posted on social media that she was feeling apprehensive about attending upcoming Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Day celebrations in her Jewish community. Several other JOCs and parents of multiracial Jewish children shared her reaction, saying that MLK Day Shabbats often read as haphazardly organized, superficial efforts to celebrate diversity.

On a different space on social media in response to the Jewish Women of Color Women’s March Sign-On Letter, I witnessed a white Jew lamenting that Jews don’t get enough credit for the work they did during the Civil Rights movement. This reflects the same problem. All too often, the Jewish community focuses on the work of the late 1960s while not recognizing the need for or engaging with antiracist work in the present day. Thankfully, another white Jew in the social media group helped the commenter understand the ways that her original comment falls short.

None of this is a surprise to me: In my experience as a Jewish diversity consultant, I encounter defensiveness and unwillingness to confront the ways that white Jews do benefit from and thus perpetuate white supremacy. Resist the urge to say “not me” as you read this. Instead, answer yes or no to the following statements:

  • I have been watched or followed at a department store or boutique.
  • I have been asked, “What are you?”
  • When pulled over or in the presence of police I have feared for my life.
  • When entering my shul security has searched my bag and my person.
  • I have been asked how I am Jewish.
  • I have been mistaken for a service worker or the help.
  • I’m usually the only person of my race when I am in synagogue.
  • When requesting an aliyah, I’m asked how I converted.

If these questions are foreign to you, you benefit from white privilege. If you have asked some of these questions yourself (like “how are you Jewish?”), you have perpetuated white supremacy. Our nation’s institutions and systems are based on the idea that whiteness is the norm, the ideal, and anything other than whiteness is considered wrong, lesser than, other. And Jewish institutions are no exception. 

Like every Jewish person across the world I was heartbroken, angry, and frankly scared after the Tree of Life shooting last year. And like a lot of Jews of Color I know, I cringe and worry for the lives of my fellow JOCs trying to enter police-guarded places of worship. This tug is at the center of what it is to be a Jewish person of color living in America today.

When you question the validity of someone’s Judaism (by asking if they understand the order of service, or if they converted, or asking their “story”), you are perpetuating white supremacy.

When you have the urge to talk about Nazis and white supremacists as oppressors, but do not acknowledge other systems of oppression, of you are perpetuating white supremacy.

When you dismiss the words and concerns and perspectives of People of Color (POCs) and Jews of Color, you are perpetuating white supremacy.

When you say, “But not me!” or “I have a lot of friends who are POCs!” you are perpetuating white supremacy.

When you herald Rabbi Heschel and Dr. King for one Shabbat each year, yet JOCs are not in positions of leadership, members of your organization’s board, or helping to make decisions in your organization; when you don’t do the work of making your Jewish spaces welcoming to JOCs and multiracial Jewish families; when you lean on JOCs to teach you instead of doing the work yourself; when you invite JOCs to share their stories and don’t pay them for the emotional labor of telling of those stories; when you exoticize Jewish communities of color in other countries without acknowledging the long-standing Jewish communities of color here, you are perpetuating white supremacy.

When you feel safer with a police officer outside your place of worship without acknowledging how the presence of a police officer feels to a JOC, you are perpetuating white supremacy.

I’ve written an article like this every year because the message needs to be heard every year. But the thing is, it doesn’t have to be this way. We, as a Jewish community do the legacy of Dr. King and Rabbi Heschel a disservice by looking to the past instead of addressing what is occuring in the present. We do a disservice to our communities by talking about tikkun olam instead of living it. Change does not need to be slow. It does not need to take time. It does not need to be a process. It’s actually quite easy. Here are some steps.

  1. Take a look at your organization. Who is in key leadership positions? Is there a Jew of Color? Or two? Or three? If not, ask yourself why not, and change that. Hire JOCs in positions of power. Actively recruit JOCs. Invest the time to work with Jewish leaders of color to recruit, retain and hire more Jews of Color.

  2. Next, take a look at your Board. Do you have JOCs represented there?

  3. Review your synagogue’s welcoming policies. Everyone should be treated equally when coming into shul. No one should feel singled out. This means that if you have a security guard, that security guard should be checking everyone’s bags and person, even if they come every single week.

  4. Remove words like “welcoming” “inclusive” and “diverse” from your synagogue’s welcoming page if your space isn’t truly welcoming, inclusive, and diverse. Don’t use stock photos or older photos of Jews of Color, especially if those folks are no longer in your community..

If these steps feel too hard to implement in your Jewish organization, you have to acknowledge that diversity and inclusion are not your priority and move on. If the idea of moving on and doing nothing doesn’t sit right with you either, then take the advice from our fathers and remember that “you are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to desist from it.” King’s dream has not been realized. His work is not complete. The movement did not end in the 60’s. It continues today. We have an obligation to work towards justice and equality. That work begins with the individual. Listen and amplify the voices of Jews of Color, pay Jews of Color for their work, hire Jews of Color to work in your organizations and invite us to sit on your Boards.

We are not the stranger the Torah reminds us to welcome. We are your brothers and sisters.

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  • Rena

    How divisive and disappointing. Can’t believe that your whole job as a “Jewish diversity consultant” is to point out why just because a jew happens to look white, they benefit from white supremacy and thus uphold it. I mean, thats pretty prejudice. You jump to all these conclusions to get there such as no “JoCs” being on the board… maybe no JoC applied for a position? Maybe they weren’t qualified? There usually are less JoCs that go to a synagogue than “white jews”(a ridiculous term if i had ever heard one) regardless. And while racial profiling is unfair, its ridiculous to assume that someone standing guard by a synagogue or checking your bag is going to kill you. the kind of police man who is racist enough to shoot a black person with no other reason than the color of their skin is not the person any jew would want protecting a shul. Real white supremacists HATE jews. Its besides the point that if a JoC comes every week obviously a guard on duty won’t feel the need to check their bag, just like any other synagogue goer (as you even imply yourself in your third ‘suggestion’ for inclusivity) Lastly its really horrible that you feel the need to juxtapose identity politics into a place a worship where all jews should just be considered Jews, not white jews or JoC, just jews. And it is my personal experience that when a jew comes to the place i worship in, and happens to have a different skin color, or a different accent or whatever it may be, i don’t assume they aren’t jewish because everyone knows jews don’t look like one thing. I mean, dear god, they’re basically the most nomadic people OF COURSE they don’t all look the same. it would be idiotic to assume they do. seems that the person who is doing all of the racial profiling is you.

    • Lesley Lucas

      Ahem, I believe the author said: ‘When you dismiss the words and concerns and perspectives of People of Color (POCs) and Jews of Color, you are perpetuating white supremacy’

      • Abelardy

        White supremacy and white privilege? You gotta be kidding. I wear a kippa, not a sheet!

        Six million Jews in Europe were murdered because they were considered a subhuman race, most definitely “non-white”. Funny, I don’t feel so privileged.

        Actually, let’s talk privilege. YOU have a privilege I don’t have. YOU have the privilege of never visiting Yad Vashem, like I did and seeing a list of your relatives murdered in WWII. YOU have the privilege of never knowing that bottomless grief. Wanna swap privileges?

        As a Jew (regardless of your skin-tone), you are part of a five thousand year old civilization which has lived in a hundred nations and seen the witnessed the best and the worst of human history.

        As a Jew, your ancestors held their faith, and their loyalty to each other, and loved one another. They studied the Torah and Talmud, and sought the wisdom of G-d. Please don’t let the latest fad which is denouncing”white privilege” blind you to the beauty of Judaism, or split you from the Jewish people.

    • Shoshana Jackson

      Your privilege is showing. You might want to tuck that in

  • Deb

    I’m sorry if this is white privilege talking, but I don’t understand why “asking someone to tell their story” is “questioning the validity of thei Judaism”. Can’t it just be interest and curiosity?

    • Nancy Levy Marin

      As a convert, I can tell you that unless I share that I converted, I would not want someone to approach me and ask me to share my conversion story for two reasons. The first is that in certain denominations and congregations how a convert converted into Judaism matters. For example, a convert who used a conservative beit-in is not considered Jewish in many orthodox communities. Second, asking to share their story makes a convert feel different from the rest of Klal Yisrael. To become a Jew, a convert has to go through years of study and dedication. A convert has to make very hard decisions about how to relate to non Jewish relatives and give up practices they have known their whole life so that they can be part of Klal Yisrael. The trade off is that the convert takes on the history and heritage of the Jewish people. To ask a convert to share their story I think denies the convert of feeling a part of that. Approaching a Jewish person of color and asking them to share their story will either elicit the feelings described above because they converted, or they will be insulted because they were Jewish at birth and became a Jew the same way everyone else that did not convert becomes one.

    • Nora

      I think the point is that white Jews often assume Jews of color are converts, and asking these questions of them specifically functions as a way of telling them they are guests in “your” (white) community.

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  • Bobby5000

    Several different topics here.

    1. Greetings. She’s right. People should be welcomed at a temple and no one should be interrogated about background by a stranger- nice to meet you, etc, is appropriate.
    2. Got to be a little careful about talking about the Jewish generation after the holocaust as a product of white privilege. Some came to America after enduring or seeing horrors but had to overcome that to succeed.
    3. Let’s be careful of introducing politics at a temple-you’ll have a lot of older congregants telling you Afro-American unemployment under Trump is 1/2 of that under Obama.
    4. Police stops are troublesome. A few days ago, I was saddened that a woman suffered 3 months of kidnapping and hardship because cops failed because to stop a vehicle fleeing from the scene. And note had they stopped this car, they would had less than a second to react because he said he would have shot them on sight. So please show your hands and be cooperative.

    That said, consider a device that measures and records speed on your car. If you’re stopped unfairly, then consider filing a lawsuit- note the town pays a good deal for lawyers, etc, and settlement, and this will have an impact.