by Danya Ruttenberg

Yentl’s Revenge

If there was one specific experience through which I came of age as a Jewish woman, it was my mother’s death my junior year of college. It happened much later than, perhaps, most of the other rites of passage described on these pages, but adulthood certainly hadn’t happened by means of my bat mitzvah—a fundamentally empty event involving a new dress, new bank account, and the same insecurities I’d had since before needing a bra. Over the seven years following that, I, like most kids who were raised with privilege, teetered on the strange border between childhood and adulthood—taking steps towards independence but not quite ready to stand on my own.

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How Do We Become Grown-Up Jewish Women?

The articles in this special section:

Yentl’s Revenge

by Danya Ruttenberg

Room in the Heart

by Sonia Levitin

The JGirl’s Guide

by Shulamit Reinharz

My Sister’s Wedding

by Hannah R. Goodman

Lost in America

by Marilyn Sachs

The Last Days of Dogtown

by Anita Diamant

The J.A.P. Chronicles

by Isabel Rose

Confessions of a Closet Catholic

by Sarah Darer Littman

Closing the Sea

by Judith Katzir

When I Was a Soldier

by Valerie Zenatt